We all get stuck in the things we say again and again! I know I do. I say the same ol’ blah, blah, blah all the time. And then there’s all the times we [I] say something clumsy or dumb or thoughtless or hurtful. HellOOO.
Some things [I learned] that can build a bridge back to repair a relationship: [something to get us [me] unstuck]
“I’m feeling scared.”
“I feel defensive. Can you rephrase that?’
“You know, I might be wrong here.”
“Let’s find some common ground.”
“Please don’t lecture me.”
“This isn’t your problem. This is our problem.”
“What are your concerns?”
Yes, I have my own relationship coach now. And this is what I learned in my very first lesson. I’ll be letting you know how it goes.
I’ve pretty much had to depend on me my whole dang life. I’ve not had a strong person to take care of me or to lean on. It just about breaks me in two when I hear the phrase “lean into me,” in a song or a poem because I don’t even know what that would be like. And because we all [including moi] need to feel loved, respected, honored, appreciated, and acknowledged, and given the benefit of the doubt, and have at least one person who believes in us, I’ve gone way out of my comfort zone and hired an expert.
Let me know if you want to go halfsies with me.