It’s 2pm and I am, seriously, still in my sweats that I wore to the gym this morning at 7am. Lazy day? Not at all! I woke up early… 4:45am and I’ve been listening to good things ever since. I’m living in the podcast world presently! There are soooo many good things, so much information to improve outlooks and understanding and lives. I started listening to Bold New Mom last summer and moved on to approximately twenty more! I listen to The Virtual Couch, Bloom for Women, Ted Radio, Invisibilia,The Life Coach School, The Joyful Soul Project, 30 in 30, Super Soul, Interpreter Foundation, BYU Speeches and podcasts on Scripture Sudy. I just started COLD, the story about Susan Powell’s disappearance, Serial, LDS Lesson Helps, Meridian Magazine, Priceless, Women in the Scriptures. So many good things. Every now and then I’ll run into something I don’t relate to, something offensive, or something ‘not me’ and I just move on to something else. I’ve learned so much. I have loved using my brain and thinking deeply and trying to improve my basic outlook on life. To what? To: Life.Is.Good. So Good.
The divorce is over. It’s been two months. I spent one entire year gathering information for the attorney. The four previous years I was consumed with the wrecking-ball going on in my home. And now, all I have is wonderful time and space and openness… to learning and growing.
I learned something new about emotions and what an emotion “is asking us to do.” Emotions bring a message to us, and if we do what is required, the emotion will move on. If, however, we dart around and avoid the emotion, it will keep trying to deliver the message [much like someone trying to deliver a telegram . . it will keep trying to get the message to us]. If we accept the message, say, hey thanks, then the emotion is able to move on.
There are four main emotions and thousands of other emotions are a combination or layering of these four primary ones, much like all colors are combined from the three primary colors of red, blue and yellow. They are sadness, anger, scared and happy. And each one has a message for us.
The message from sadness is to slow down and to let go of something.
The message from anger is to find what boundaries we need to set [or release] and what changes we need to make.
The message from scared is to make a plan, to get prepared for something,
The message from happy is to enjoy and rejuvenate.
Other emotions are combinations of these as they blend together in our everyday experiences. You can be angry and happy at the same time. You can be scared and happy at the same time. You can even be sad and happy at the same time.
It’s all so interesting to me. Of course, I Googled the topic and many many many other sites say there are 8 main emotions, 20 main emotions, or 27 main emotions that all others come from.
I also learned about the importance of not isolating yourself. Isolation leads to every negative mental state there can possibly be. I tried to put that thought and information into perspective in light of what happened to who I have lived with for the past 32 years.
And, last, for now, is the wonderful suggestion I learned about having a “self-check” every single day. Maybe right before bed. It’s productive and enlightening to ask ourselves these questions, or similar ones, about the day. They involve my physical, emotional, spiritual, social, psychological state, and how I feel about self-care, boundaries, commitment/goals, and gratitude.
How do I feel physically? Let’s see, my back still aches, but my stomach feels better, I love how my muscles feel after going to the gym this morning, my eyes are finally rested and the cut on my thumb is healing. My feet are always cold . . . Etc.
How do I feel emotionally? OK, I am feeling pretty calm, or I could really use a good cry. I’m nervous about my presentation at RS tomorrow night or I laughed out loud at Marty Deeks on NCIS/LA. . . Etc.
How do I feel spiritually? My prayers are more meaningful, I find that I look forward to morning and evening prayers. I’m not avoiding talking with God anymore, I love the feeling I had in church during a talk. Or Satan won’t leave me alone, I’m sliding backwards, I resent having to toe the line . . . Etc.
After the P/E/S/S/P list, check in with self-care. Something like: I need to take time after my shower to lather on lotion, and I really need to get my browns cleaned up. I made a smoothie for today and one is in the fridge for tomorrow. I thought of two uplifting positive affirmations and I love thinking about the power of the word “elevate.” I took time to read a thoughtful inspirational quote.
Follow through with awareness about boundaries, commitment/goals, and gratitude.
One more thought:
Gratitude reminds us to balance out our thinking.
So many good things to learn and enjoy. There’s literally no end to it. Our Creator expects His children everywhere to gain an education as a personal endeavor. He issued this commandment: “Seek ye diligently and teach one another words of wisdom; yea, seek ye out of the best books words of wisdom; seek learning, even by study and also by faith.” D&C 88:118